In Feline Telenovela?

Live with an animal communicator does it mean that everyone gets along?

There is no question that cat integration can be very, very challenging. In my last post about integrating Melissa I thought I had finally turned a corner. Well, maybe that was just another corner in a complex maze.

In the wild, domestic cats naturally live in multigenerational female family groups, as do lions. But when confined indoors and when cats are unrelated to each other, conflict can be difficult to overcome.

In our human families, we bring together cats that have no biological relationship with each other. That can pose great challenges, as it is not natural for them to live this way.

When Starlight arrived almost 5 years ago (that long ago? Really?) And was quickly integrated in about 2 months, I couldn’t believe it was that easy.

Of course, a lot of preparations had been made, even before she was born. Also, Starlight has a very sweet disposition. He doesn’t like to challenge anyone for anything. So naturally the existing hierarchy was never questioned and everything was fine.

Then came Melissa.

Melissa, by personality and possibly genetics, is a very dominant cat.

He wanted to take over the kennel where he was born.

Then at 6 months of age, I was hoping to dominate the 3 cats in my family.

Despite all my efforts to dissuade her, Melissa knew exactly what she wanted and was unwilling to back down.

She refused to listen to everything I had to say (perpetual teenager?) And she still yells at me when I start to say something she doesn’t want to hear.

Sometimes I have the image of a child throwing a tantrum, screaming and sticking his paws (fingers) in his ears.

From her first day here, Melissa never showed the slightest submission to the superior cat, Sakhara, and she never intended for anything other than ruling the house.

I have explained to him that there are several ways to express dominance and that violence is not always the best way. But of course, with “paws in her ears”, Melissa has not listened to me and completely rejects my requests.

Melissa is now over 2 years old.
Melissa is now the dominant cat.

His relationships with Violet and Starlight are generally balanced and respectful, most of the time.

However, with Sakhara, the conflict continues unabated.

Sakhara refuses to officially resign from his position.

Melissa continues to hit Sakhara at least once a day, and she does her best to do so. Even if Sakhara is sitting on my lap and minding her own business, Melissa will attack. I can see in Melissa’s eyes and body language when she is preparing to attack.

Nothing I’ve done to try to stop this has made any difference except in the moment. If I hiss at Melissa or admonish her, she backs off and then just waits until I’m not looking.

Due to Sakhara’s age and general health (around 21 years old), I still do interference. For me, Sakhara deserves some deference, as she has always been kind, caring, and considerate of others.

Sakhara has chosen to sleep alone in a room with the door closed. This way you don’t have to walk past Melissa to get to a litter box after I’ve gone to bed. I’m fine with this, but when I open the door in the morning, Melissa passes me at lightning speed.

In my efforts to work things out between these two, I discovered a past life in which Melissa and Sakhara had a terrible conflict that resulted in horrible torture and death for Melissa. Melissa is relentless and Sakhara doesn’t even forgive herself.

So the karma continues.

While I have not completely given up on my efforts to help each of these beautiful beings find inner peace, there is a powerful lesson for me in all of this. While meditating one day, I was told to use this statement:

“I accept the perfection of God in everything.
I stopped having to fix everything. “

Truly a powerful lesson. It’s not up to me to figure this out. It depends on them.

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