“I wish it wasn’t too safe” my father said and then continued “you’re young so go out there and take risks, fail and learn”. That was enough for me to take action towards my goals. Just think about it, you work for your goals and you achieve them, wouldn’t that be amazing? Easier said than done. TRUE? If you don’t give yourself a chance, it will never happen.

What’s worse, we all try to do something to improve our lives. Especially on New Year’s, a lot of people have that ‘new year, new me’ mentality. Oddly enough, they and you followed the same habits to achieve different goals. It’s like eating chicken and expecting the taste of beef. After all the failed attempts, you become useless and start to believe that you don’t have what it takes. The good news? You have what it takes!

However, first things first. The main reason you have failed in the past is this: you set a goal in your mind, read, listen, watch and gather information about it. And you forgot the most important part; The execution. Let’s say you want to play the violin, have an attractive body, or start a business. What is your job? Go for it! You spend so much time learning ‘about’ your goal that you eventually run out of energy for the real goal.

Hesitation is another problem; Do you think I should go for it? Will it be beneficial? Am I going to be successful? What will others think? I have a question for you; How the hell are you going to know the answer without trying? The only thing you should get out of this; you spend too much energy on your goal instead of the goal itself.

Procrastination, I had this problem in the past, I understand you. I usually procrastinate working on my goals; I’ll start working on it after watching this episode. Alright, I’ll just listen to one more music and get started. Guess what happened? Nothing, I wasted my valuable time. And I’ve had enough, you’ve had enough too. Here’s how to take action right now:

First, understand your fears. Yes, the fears and yes, the ones you deny. If you want, you can write them on a piece of paper. But, in general, we are scared of these: failure and what others will think about what we do. The bad news, you’re going to fail, I know for myself, I’ve done it many times. Worse still, it will hurt, but I also have good news. Every time you fail, you learn how to get back up. Certainly, one of the reasons why you are afraid of failure is because you don’t want other people to see it, so you don’t want to fail.

It’s funny, because you’re not their priority, so they don’t think about you as much as you think they think about you. Suppose one of his friends started training in martial arts. He took his new hobby seriously and after training for a couple of months he entered a tournament. Let’s say he was destroyed in the first match of him. How much would you care? Are you going to make fun of him or if so, for how long? As you can see, there is no need for the fear of failure that comes from worrying about the reactions of others.

Second, you must accept failure. There are many ways to embrace failure, in my opinion changing the definition of failure is the easiest. How? Instead of ‘failure’, you can say ‘springboard’, ‘lesson’ or ‘growth opportunity’. The more you fail, the more ‘growth opportunities’ you will have. Trust me, one of those opportunities will work for you, then you will rise like a star. You don’t fail because you take action, you fail because you don’t take action.

Third, you learn along the way. Worst comes first, remember that. Do yourself a favor, have low expectations on your first try. No one was born a professional athlete, wonderful writer, or singer. All successful people put a great deal of effort into their work. There is no secret, you have to do the same if you want to achieve your goal. It’s perfectly fine to think, read, listen, and gather information about what you want to do, however, make sure you have enough energy to put the necessary efforts into your goal. Otherwise, you will not advance.

Fourth, run away from temporary desires as your life depends on it. Temporary desires ruin your life. As you think about one more episode, one more music, or one more night, the other person who is working is winning. If something you do doesn’t help you, then don’t do it. For example, I love listening to music, so I listen to music before work. It starts with that ‘just one more’ or ‘well this is the last’ sentence, believe me, it’s more than one more or the last. When I started writing instead of listening to music, I found myself writing until 2 am So just start!

The last one, take your time. It is good to visualize your success and it motivates you, however, you should only take one step at a time. When it comes to achieving something, you can’t start from the top. Do not try to be on top at the beginning of the trip, as I said before, have low expectations at the beginning.

If you keep thinking about what you want to do, you will doubt, fear and procrastinate more. Which will not bring any positive result. On the other hand, if you start doing what you want to do right now, you will eventually get some results (good or bad). More than that, if you keep trying, you will eventually get the desired result.
What are you waiting for? Go for it!