Women, have you ever wondered why you have so many problems in your relationship? Have you ever wondered why you can’t find a good husband? Yes, we know that some of the best men are married or gay. However, contrary to popular opinion, there are good men out there and yes, they are single AND available. So how do you go about attracting these men without going to a “Seeking Men for Jesus” meeting? How do you get a man to work on himself to become the kind of husband you want? You do this by starting to work on becoming complete within yourself INSTEAD of looking for someone else to complete you.

Are you ready to be a wife? Do you have your own life with your own stuff or are you looking for a man to fill your life and give you purpose? If a man is all you have in your life, then when you start having problems, those problems will leave you stuck. You will have nothing else in your life to sustain you. Having a man, having an intimate relationship should be only a part of your life, not the whole of your life. That’s why so many women lose their minds when their partner cheats on them or has an affair.

It is very important to have your OWN life BEFORE you share that life with someone else. Before you are a man’s wife, make sure you are wife material. Would you marry the woman who looks at you in the mirror? That is NOT referring to your sexy, shapely body or your bedroom skills NOR your cooking skills. Are you emotionally mature? Are you working on your personal growth and development?

You can’t expect to marry someone who is the perfect husband, but you are not the perfect wife. You can’t expect to marry someone who is faithful, who doesn’t hang out with many women, who is NOT ready to settle down, who is NOT emotionally ready, if you are just as emotionally immature, which means you are extremely jealous, possessive, insecure, has low self esteem, lack of confidence, no identity, no sense of self but expect a man to have a lot of money to take care of you financially. Do you have your own money?

Do for yourself FIRST what you would like a man to do for you. He goes on a date with himself. Travel the world with your dime. Buy yourself nice things. Work your own money have your own money. Being able to afford your own life. Do you have your own mutual funds that you are investing in? No, this is not referring to a 401K.

Of course, it is NOT essential to have investments. This is just a checklist of things you can do and have for yourself. It DOESN’T mean you have to be materialistic and constantly buy things just to have and impress. It’s about having your own life BEFORE you become a man’s wife. That way you can BE your own woman with or without a husband. That way, if a man is causing you unnecessary pain and drama, you can get him out of your life and home while saying “Don’t let the door hit you where the good lord broke you!!

Set the bar for your life VERY high so you don’t attract the ripe fruit of the apple tree. BE at the TOP of the apple tree so that the man you seek is either already at the top or willing to grow to be the kind of man he needs to be in order to climb to the top of the apple tree to be with you! So are you ready to BE a wife?

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