A fairly common issue that is often brought up regarding dating Chinese girls is the rumor or preconception that all Chinese girls like to take it slow in a relationship. Many people think that Chinese girls are very conservative, and dating them feels like a long and slow process. There is a bit of truth to this myth, but for the most part, it is not entirely true. Chinese girls are just like girls from any other culture. Love and sex come when they feel comfortable with their partners. So where did this idea come from?

Historically, women in China have had a pretty tough life. They were seen as objects, even more so than in Western cultures. Parents traded their daughters’ virginity for money and status. Basically, they would sell their daughters to marry them off. If at the time of consummating the marriage it was discovered that she was not a virgin, she would be expelled, rejected by her family and would resort to life on the streets. Women in China had few or no rights for most of the last millennium.

Today, in modern China, the tremendous change and progress made in the past 30 years is clearly visible. Women’s rights have been significantly strengthened, and Chinese women have become more powerful and self-sufficient as a result. They have gained control in many areas and have more power in a relationship as a result. They can now dictate the speed at which a relationship develops, because they now play a much larger financial role in society.

In China, it is quite common to see boyfriends waiting for their girlfriends hand and foot. Chinese guys don’t hesitate to pamper their girlfriends by doing things like holding their bags or carrying whatever bags they bought while shopping, etc. This just goes to show how much power Chinese women have in a relationship.

As a Western man dating a Chinese woman, you should respect her wishes in the relationship. In a multicultural relationship, both parties will make concessions and compromises. You may want to move fast while she wants to go a little slower, and in the meantime, be respectful. Chinese women will respond positively to your respect and you are more likely to have a healthy relationship that moves at the speed you want it to. The most important thing is that you never do things that make them feel uncomfortable and just move as fast as she is willing to move.