The much talked about erotic hot spots usually get a lot of attention because they work on most women and are easy to find. When you and she are turned on and she is in the mood, these common pleasure points will do the trick. However, most of the time this is not the case and you can get bored after five minutes. Therefore, it is necessary to experiment with her with some of the other erotic points that are rarely mentioned to see which ones work. Without further delay, let’s start talking about orgasm triggering pleasure points one by one.
The CLITORIS is the best known place of pleasure. It is a very sensitive area because it is very rich in nerve endings. This is the most common area that women touch when they masturbate. Many women only experience orgasm through stimulation of their clitoris.
The main key with the clitoris is to do some testing to see how and where it reacts to your touch. Women are incredibly different from each other when it comes to how much pressure they like on their clitoris to get “off.” For many women, direct stimulation to the tip of the clitoris is too intense and can even be extremely uncomfortable, but some women enjoy very rough action right on the knob to get where they want to go.
Therefore, it is difficult to advise you precisely what to do here. You have to experiment a bit on your own using your fingers, the tip of your tongue, and the amount of pleasure you apply to her clit.
The G-SPOT is located just 2 inches inside and on the upper wall of the vagina. For some women, a little rhythm and a sweeping forward motion on this spongy-feeling little patch will send them into serious orbit. Others feel nothing at all. If her woman can’t, she can probably “train” her so that she starts enjoying it and eventually gives her very powerful orgasms there too.
The PARACERVICAL RING is what some people call it the A point or deep point. If you go straight back, further into the vagina from the G-spot, right where it meets the cervix, you should feel a very soft ring of skin. The upper part of this ring (near the belly) is known as the anterior fornix.
This area can be stimulated in exactly the same way as the G-spot (if you have long fingers and remember to lubricate them first), but it’s also where the head of your penis presses during deep intercourse. Some women refer to the orgasm that results as a “deep body orgasm” or a vaginal orgasm, but regardless of how you describe it, it’s another very powerful orgasmic trigger point. These deep orgasms can be very intense and can trigger a lot of emotions. If strong emotions come up with you and your
partner during or after an orgasm, the most important thing you can do is remain calm, gentle, and supportive.
NON-VAGINAL EROGENOUS ZONES: Most women, with practice, can orgasm through stimulating areas other than those located in and around their vagina. The most “common” (of this very rare thing) that women experience is the nipple orgasm.
The reason this is the most common is simply because many women have husbands or boyfriends who find their breasts irresistible and spend a lot of time there. So, when one day the guy really gets hooked for a long time, and he starts using his tongue in a steady rhythm.
If he’s a good lover and sensitive to changes in her body, he feels her suddenly getting more aroused so he continues what he was doing and the next thing they both discover is nipple orgasm. The first time it happens, her jaw will drop. It is very, very powerful, and for most women, very, very amazing.
What’s more amazing is that it doesn’t stop with the nipples. Women can orgasm with the same type of stimulation on the nape of the neck, inside the elbows, behind the knees, the back of the ankle, the earlobes, the bottom of the foot, and many, many other places that I’m sure I haven’t figured it out. The important key is to find out which areas are most sensitive for YOUR woman and then experiment.
POINT “B” is by far the most powerful orgasm trigger point in a woman’s body: HER BRAIN. Women can orgasm through nothing more than words. That’s right, you can coax her into having an orgasm.
This may not be easy, but it can be achieved after some practice. First of all, almost every time a woman has an orgasm, it is through the stimulation of more than one trigger point at a time. It can give a woman a combined clitoral and G-spot orgasm at the same time, or the paracervical ring and nipple at the same time.
But basically, whether you’re aware of it or not, every time she orgasms, you’re at least stimulating her B-spot along with whatever else you’re doing. If she’s not turned on in her brain, nothing else will work. This is more than just “turn on”. There is a very specific, very exact state that her brain must be in for her to have an orgasm.
You can stimulate your other orgasmic trigger points from sunrise to sunset and nothing will work if you can’t master the subtleties of the B-spot. Most importantly, to the extent that you can master your B-spot, which governs your mental and emotional sexual state , will determine how powerful your orgasms are.
Here are some tips to stimulate your brain:
To talk with her. Be honest about how she feels. Be careful not to blame, but to express concern for her about the loss of intimacy. This will open the door for discussion.
Help her. How many times has she told you that she’s exhausted? Whether she works, stays home with the kids, or both, if she’s left with dirty dishes and chores at the end of the day, how can her brain wake up?
Give him a hand. Vacuum the rugs, wash some dishes, or pick up the mess. This attention not only lessens her workload, but it shows her that you care about her and want to help her.
Touch her often. This is simple, but effective. As you walk past her, run her hand over her back. Trace your finger along her clavicle when she is sitting and reading.
Take her hand as you walk to the car. These are small signs that you want to touch her in non-sexual situations and make the transition to intimacy much less abrupt.
Send him text messages. Throughout the day, send him texts that start out soft in the morning and become more suggestive as the day progresses.
Show appreciation. Show interest in her description of her day and let her know how much you love and appreciate her. Compliment her so she knows you find her attractive.
In summary, here are some of the things to pay attention to:
1) turn her on
Many guys skip this entirely because often, especially early in the relationship, this happens automatically. The first time she is alone with you and begins to remove her clothes, she has a lot of anticipation and nervous energy that can drive her wild with excitement. But months later, just because she drops your pants, she may not immediately be drenched in lust. You need to LEARN how to trigger that same kind of anticipation that drives her completely mad with lust. Eventually, if you master this ability, you’ll be able to put it into this state as easily as flipping a switch.
2) Sexual confidence
If arousal occurs automatically in the initial period of the relationship, the opposite occurs with sexual confidence. That’s why so often a woman will feel incredibly turned on the first time she has sex, it’s possible that she’s biologically showing all the right signs and getting really turned on. But still being unable to orgasm with you.
The orgasm for a woman is an act of surrender. Some women can do this easily and for some women this is the most challenging part of having an orgasm. Think of it this way: some men can easily get a boner under pressure, but for some men getting a boner, for example, while a crowd of people are watching and cheering for them, would be impossible.
Now, obviously, you probably don’t need to worry about a crowd of people watching you have sex. But maybe this will help you understand why, for some women, even if they are really turned on, they may not be able to relax enough to orgasm. Learning exactly how to build this confidence is critical to helping pre-orgasmic women have their first orgasm.
3) Create a high-level sexual state
Orgasm doesn’t actually happen in the vagina, but in the brain. Scientists can hook up an EEG to a woman’s brain and measure the stages of arousal leading up to orgasm. The easiest way to get that orgasmic brain wave going is to stimulate the nerves of the clitoris.
But, like I said, most women can learn to orgasm simply with a verbal command. They can learn to “think” their way to an orgasm. You can learn to double or even triple the intensity of your orgasms by learning to create and control this state of mind.
4) Emotional Connection
Everyone talks about the difference between “having sex” and “making love.” We all know the difference. We can all feel the difference. I think that, in general, women feel the difference much more deeply. Unfortunately, “making love” isn’t as simple as having sex with someone you have a crush on.
Just being in love is not the difference and of course we all know that you can be in love with a woman and have quick and dirty sex with her and that can be fun. Being in love is not the key to “making love.” The key is to stay emotionally connected during the actual act of making love.
When a woman experiences orgasm with a man with whom she is emotionally connected at that simultaneous moment with her orgasm. She experiences something deep, spiritual, and unlike any ordinary orgasm she might have masturbating or with a man who can’t make that connection. It is something unforgettable. It is 10 times more powerful than even the most powerful orgasms she can otherwise achieve.